The today sex, from every angle, is really more than just a bedroom affair experience. The sex that creates a lingering memory is not the one where a couple would have to turn off the light so that the other partner would not see the other spouse’s nakedness. It is far from the sex that is done in a clumsy, hurried and painful manner. It is not just the type of sex that only the man gets satisfaction. It is also far from the two to five minutes sex, which leaves the wife hanging up there or leaves the man regretting why he never lasts longer.
When couples understand this truth and put to practice most of the things they have learnt from this column, I can say that such couple would begin to see the positive side effect of their sexual relationship both in their emotional and physical bodies.
The reason is that couple’s sexuality does not only add to their sexual pleasure but enhances their health, lives and general living.
So, today, we are going to look into 10 reasons why sex is just more than mere bedroom affair.
Firstly; whenever any of the spouses is in the mood for sex, do you know that such partner is indirectly boosting his or her immune system or maintaining a healthy weight? Yes, good sex offers those health benefits and more, because we are vital, sexual creatures. Sex does the body good in a number of ways; the benefits aren’t just subjective or hearsay but backed by scientific scrutiny.
Secondly, good sexual health may mean better physical health. Having sex once or twice a week has been linked to high levels of antibodies which can protect spouses from getting colds and other infections. While some older couples may worry that the efforts expended during sex could cause a stroke, scientists found frequency of sex was not associated with stroke, instead, sex lowers blood pressure. Having sex twice or more a week reduces the risk of fatal heart attack by half.
Thirdly, having sex and orgasms simultaneously, increases levels of the hormone oxytocin, which is called the love hormone. This helps bind couples and intensifies more or serial orgasms together.
Fourthly, for many husbands that complain that their wives never reach orgasm, hear this – just mere positioning some pillows or using pillows under your wife’s buttocks before you get going in missionary position makes many wives climax more intensely and faster. This is due to the fact that many women, after one or two or three normal vaginal delivery, lose sensitivity in the vaginal area (especially the outer part of the vaginal, which is the part that has more sensual nerves for sensation) due to the over-stretching of the vaginal muscles, while they are pushing for the baby to come out. The loss of sensitivity is more pronounced in wives who usually give birth to big babies. But when pillows are directly under the buttocks for support, the elevated buttocks help the husband to get to thrust in and out effectively and hit the anterior area of the base of the clitoris more than he would have done when the buttock is not highly elevated. This is also very useful for women who are less endowed with a big buttock. This also helps the husband to really know when his wife is climaxing or getting to the peak of orgasm; the husband will easily feel that his wife is squeezing, releasing her PC muscles and simultaneously contracting her vaginal muscles. And as this is happening, she is actually reaching her climatic level of orgasm. I always encourage that whenever the husband notices this, he should gently intensify the thrusting but deepen the manner because she would love it so much!
Fifthly, researchers evaluated few premenopausal and menopausal women before and after warm contact with their husbands ending with hugs, affections, foreplay and romantic sex. They found that the more contact, the higher the oxytocin levels despite the fact that they are in their premenopausal or menopausal stage.
Whenever couples complain of headaches, aches all over the body, some degree of inflammation, some unexplainable pains of no origin, I usually encourage them to first of all, have a good cold bath and then have sex like two or three times in a row because sex is also a pain reliever. What actually happens is that, during active and lively sex, some chemical reactions take place. For instance, as the oxytocin hormone surges, the endorphins level in both individuals increases, and as it increases, pain naturally decreases. These chemicals’ end product is to calm down pains – from a minor headache to arthritis or migraines – and with no secondary effects. Many of my clients with horrible migraines were cured just by encouraging them to have good sex together especially after a very good bath. I mostly encourage husband and wife to bath together before having such sex to cure any pain. This is because the cool effect of the cold bath accelerates the productions of all these chemicals to interplay effectively.
So, if you are always complaining of headache, arthritis pain, ovulation pain or PMS symptom, a sure natural pill with no side effect and no financial constraint is sex. Migraines also disappear because the pressure in the brain’s blood vessels is lowered while we have sex. Now, we see actually, a woman’s ‘headache’ is rather a good reason to have sex and not an excuse not to have sex.
Sixthly; high oxytocin levels make anyone sleep better. Sex helps anyone to sleep better because the oxytocin released during orgasm also promotes sleep, according to research. And getting enough sleep has been linked with a host of other good things, such as maintaining a healthy weight and blood pressure, and all round good health.
Seventhly; vigorous and regular sex strengthens the floor muscles of the woman. To a large extent, a good sex helps to strengthen the effect and result of Kegels exercise most women and men practice. Whenever good sex is combined with regular Kegel exercise, most wives always confide in me that they notice a quicker change on the walls of their vagina. And also, many husbands tell me that their sexual performances are better than what it used to be.
Also, when married lovers combine regular sex with Kegel exercise, they will enjoy more pleasure and the vaginal wall of the woman will also get more strengthened in the pelvic region, which will also help to minimise the risk of urine incontinence later in life, and also help in future vaginal delivery by reducing the hours of labour and contraction. To do a basic Kegel exercise, all a woman has to do is tighten the muscles of her pelvic floor as if she is trying to stop the flow of urine. Count to three, then release. Do this as often as you can.
Eightly; sex reduces prostate cancer risk. Frequent ejaculations may reduce the risk of prostate cancer later in life. Boosting self-esteem was one reason people have sex but overweight men with increased waist line are more likely to have poor semen quality. If you happen to fall within this category, remember that sex is a good workout. If you want to burn more calories, have more sex.
Ninthly; knowing how to suck your wife’s breast can increase her arousal, cause her to reach orgasm and prevent breast cancer. But scientists say until breast sucking is done in an erotic manner, some hormones that fight against cancer may not be released. So, while starting off, use your hands to lightly outline the outer part of both breasts slowly. This will help her nipples to become erect. Use your lips to kiss around the outskirts of the breasts. Start kissing the outline with your moist lips slowly. Then lightly squeeze those breasts together and kiss down the middle. Make your way close to each nipple and lightly blow on them. Take each nipple into your mouth and suck them. If her nipples are erect, you can harden your tongue and flick it back and forth, and slowly take it into your mouth, at which point you will begin to suck and nibble simultaneously. But if her nipples are not hard, you can usually manipulate each one by sucking it and then releasing it from your mouth. If you can’t suck both together at the same time, suck one nipple, and lightly pinch the other with your thumb and index finger seductively.
Tenthly; researchers estimated that spouses’ healthy sexual fantasies assist the body’s muscular and cardiovascular system to function healthier and better. An erotic fantasy is a product of the imagination that arouses a sexual emotion. Fantasies are often summed up as erotic scenes, seen or imagined, which we enjoy replaying in our heads. Also, a fantasy can be an idea, an impression or a feeling. Sexual fantasies are in direct contact with our psyche and therefore, have such power of arousal. They represent the fulfilment of subconscious sexual desires, through psychic processes. Erotic fantasies are created from scenes seen or experienced during adolescence or later in adult years and when channelled in a healthy way, enhance the better function of the heart muscle and the general body muscular system. In fact, it can also aid a pregnant woman in child birth labour to have a faster delivery because it has an indirect effect on the vaginal wall, by allowing the vaginal smooth muscles to relax fast and expand better
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