Every married couple
deserves to be satisfied sexually. You can share this in a loving and
understanding way by helping one another to discover his or her sexual energy
and also by absolutely tapping into your own fulfillment.
Note that even if you have
been married for many years, you can learn to recharge your sexual batteries.
One … First, both husband and wife must invest a little
time in preparing their minds and bodies for the oncoming pleasure. This helps
to elevate the lovemaking to a higher plain. You both must relax by lying down
comfortably, breathing in slowly and making sure that you choose a quiet and
comfortable, right environment.
Two … Then begin to make use of the power of touch. There
is nothing that is as electrifying and erotic as the sensation generated by
contact with warm hands on a receptive body. It restores confidence and the
feeling that you are being admired and needed. Also, it stimulates hope. When
sick infants are stroked, they gain the will to live. A dying patient in a coma
has greater chances of recovery if touched. Similarly, many marriages have been
revived through sensual caresses.
Three … The friction caused by your hand when it touches a
human body, particularly on the sexual parts generates heat and energy. Couples
must visualise their partner’s bodies as a great sexual battery and their hands
as the primary fueling catalyst. Skilful caresses can stir waves of wonderful
feelings. Couples should not underestimate the power of their fingertips
because it is capable of creating overwhelming sensation all over the body, but
they should make sure they both have uninterrupted privacy.
Four … Remember that some caresses are more sensual than
others and some parts of the body spark into life quickly under certain
conditions. While caressing your partner, please be mindful of his or her
needs, then go ahead and use your hands to find the most responsive hotspots.
The breast is a part of the body that needs to be touched
often to stimulate, arouse and increase urges. It must be handled with
tenderness because the breast in both the male and female bodies is very
sensitive. How to do it? Gently circle and then squeeze the nipple between a
well-oiled forefinger and thumb, sliding them up and off it. For extra effect,
you can use both hands alternately so that the action and resulting sensation
is sustained. This always produces indescribable sexual urges.
Five … Partners can go further to try intimate touching.
No sensual message would be complete without paying proper attention to the
most erogenous areas of the body, especially the genitals. To achieve the best,
couples should endeavour to embark on long, lingering erotic touches. Wives, in
particular, can enjoy high level of arousal and achieve orgasm through erotic
touch. Erotic touch is when a man caresses his wife’s private parts with
electrifying touches. Erotic touch is when a wife sensually caresses her
husband’s private part with her lips and eyes, her seductive sweet talk.
Six … The quivering culmination of tease and tantalisation
is when you discover that neurons are plugged directly into your spouse’s
finger tips. If you are the husband, you must never forget to caress the inside
of your wife’s thighs first and ask her which touches she prefers. Then, using
both your hands at the same time, you should gently pull on the outer lips of
the female sex organ. Take a step further, manoeuvre the clitoris and do this
carefully and with a touch that is almost as light as a feather. Don’t forget
to use plenty of lubrication, run your finger first around the head of the
clitoris and then, move it up and down the shaft of the clitoris.
On her part, the wife should be aware that when she is
caressing her husband’s body, she should avoid any action that may hasten him
to achieve orgasm because reaching a climax is not a big deal to him. The
problem of developing, maintaining and satisfying sexual urges is more on the
side of the wife than the husband. But the wife should focus on giving the
husband a wonderful time. Make sure you steady his organ by grasping it around
the middle with one hand. Then rub the cupped palm of your other hand around
the head as if you are juicing an orange. Slide your cupped hand up over the
head of his organ and down the shaft. And before it gets to the base, bring the
other hand up to the head once more to repeat the caressing. Above all,
endeavour to create an all-round arousal; use your hands, lips and the warm
pressure of your whole body to electrify your partner‘s skin before moving to
penetrative sex.
Seven … At this level, kissing is inevitable. I mean the
sensual and erotic way of kissing. Kiss can be used for different things- a
greeting, an expression of love, or an essential part of foreplay and
penetrative sex in general. Since the lips and tongue are the most sensitive
parts of the body, gentle tender kissing and deep penetrative kissing alike,
can be erotic sex itself. Please never underestimate the power of kissing in
your preparation for sex and in your lovemaking; it is an urge most effective
breaker-forth tool. When you kiss, do it with confidence, kiss with skill.
Skilful kissing usually enhances your own emotional state and helps to boost
your spouse’s confidence, as well as hype the erotic and exciting level of intimacy.
The result is a good sexual urge and memorable sexual performance. If you kiss
very well, it is possible that both of you will not rush into penetrative sex
immediately, but rather slowly work down your partner’s body with kisses and
caresses. Remember your gentle strokes and caresses are unbeatable.
Eight … Remember, kissing could mean different things; it
could be a form of greetings, or an expression of love, or an essential part of
foreplay and lovemaking in general. Since the lips and tongue are among the
most sensitive parts of the body, tender and deep kissing alike can be as
erotic as sex itself. Married lovers should never underestimate the power,
effect and the importance of kissing in their lovemaking. Therefore, couples
should kiss with confidence and also learn the act of kissing.
Skilful kissing will not only enhance your own emotional
state, build your confidence and increase your level of excitement, it also has
an electrifying effect on your partner. Kissing is as charming, enthralling, tempting
and special as any other aspect of sex and lovemaking.
Nine … To further awaken your sexual desire, it is
essential for the two of you to do it gradually. Don’t rush into penetrative
sex. Preparation must be sensual; from the level of tantalising to soft kissing
and caresses. This will definitely start to arouse your partner. Then, gently
use your hands and tongue to explore and enjoy every inch of your lover’s body
and discover the ‘ignition areas’ for sexual fire. Slowly work down on your
spouse’s body with kisses and tender touches. Take your time. Arouse him or her
by exploring every inch of his or her body. Discover the touches and kisses
that can give him or her the needed pleasure.
Ten … Since the aim is to keep your sex life alive, make
sure your touches are inspiring enough. Once you begin to stimulate the areas
around the genitals, you will definitely rapidly arouse his or her sexual
desire. Neurologists believe that applying stimulation to nerves endings on the
foot can energise related organs. They believe that there are similar nerves
endings or reflexology zones in the penis and the vagina that are also
available on the foot. Since it may be a little difficult to gainfully caress
the inner wall of the vagina, when the foot is caressed, it gives equal
sensation and arousal that the caressing of the inner wall of the vagina can
give. The folds of the vagina canal and the uneven shape of the penis make it
difficult at times to properly massage the penis or vagina during regular
penetrative sex. The intensity of the caressing usually hastens the thrusting
in and out.
Eleven … While engaging in active thrusting, the main
focus is to lazily prolong the act to give maximum satisfaction. And this
should be done with a great deal of bodily control and movement. The husband
should make sure that at the initial stage, he thrusts only the head of the
penis into the vagina frequently before a withdrawal and then a final vigorous
deep thrusting in and out. This type of pleasurable act will most times accelerate
the orgasm of the husband and leave the wife with a deep sense of
dissatisfaction.
So the husband must make sure that his wife shares in the
joy of orgasm. He must note that a woman’s orgasm is as a result of series of
upwardly rising steps followed by one declining step. These steps actually flow
together each step, overlapping and building on the previous one. So, husband
should concentrate on giving his wife the best orgasm he can. There are stages
a husband can take his wife to for the best orgasm desired, and each stage of
orgasm energises certain parts of her body and evokes certain observable and
predictable responses in the woman.
Twelve … All things being equal, if you, as the husband,
follow the preceding procedure from the first part, you will be able to do this
without any stress. In the first stage, you will notice that your wife will
begin to sigh, breath deeply and salivate, then you will notice that she will
be looking for a way to kiss you with closed eyes. And she would do that with an
extended tongue, wanting to ravish your mouth. At that point, she is actually
in another world that she could only explain.
Later, as her muscles become activated, she most times
grasps you tightly because she is experiencing a series of vaginal spasms. At
this time, some secretions begin to flow from her vagina. Many wives react
differently to orgasm. Most times, the husband will notice that the wife’s
joints loosen and she sometimes bites him in a ravishing manner, trying to wrap
her arms and legs around him. This is so basically because at that time, her
blood is already boiling. She grabs you the more, touching your nipples as an
indirect way of telling you to play with her nipples and then, she completely
collapses.
Actually, many married women only experience the first
four stages of orgasm. To reach the height of the remaining stages, husbands
must continue to stimulate and caress their wives. Even when she has visibly
reached orgasm, the husband should continue with the stimulation and go all his
way to suck her breast. Do all you can to keep the fire of sex glowing.
